You have been bruised and mauled too often, through words and action. Someone talking badly or treating you with absolute disdain creates so much of bitterness in us. We believe people could say the same stuff without personalizing it and making you sound like the greatest idiot.
Now I am sure you have felt this when your parent blasted you some day or your teacher made a mincemeat out of you in class. In a husband wife quarrel the hubby tears the wife to pieces or the boss make you out into the greatest oaf in company history. Everyone in the above scenario did that in front of the whole world. You felt naked at their tirade.
You often wondered if they could easily have told you the same stuff in a calm and composed manner! But no! They had to go and make it out into the biggest mistake you had ever done. You hate them for that.
You wish so many times that, if only, you could replace these heartless people with some loving soul, you would shine. But alas, luck never favored you. Of course, you cannot replace your parents or your sibling, neither can you kill your spouse or your boss. So what can one do?
In the spiritual domain too, the Master‘s method of teaching are very harsh. He doesn’t even give you the chance to close your eyes or run away from His presence. He tears you apart like a tiger who rips through a deers body. When you feel you need a respite, He is there with His next lesson full of harsh truth. You are again made to look like a fool in front of everyone. You wonder why does He do that so openly? Is it to gather more students with fear or does He love being a sadistic creature?
The Guru treats you with disdain whereas His teachings are concerned but otherwise, He is good at heart. He is full of compassion but is a very cruel teacher. The fire spews from His tongue burning through your skin and your being, scorching you right upto your bones. He is relentless in driving home the point.
In our normal world outside, the one who is ill treating you finally, will give up or will show some pity or remorse but not the Guru. He has no qualms when He derides you for your errors or misdemeanors, faults your methods of learning or pooh poohs your hardest efforts. Then again He drives you up the wall.
The material worldly people are having some motivation and expectations from you so they ill treat you. But the Guru doesn’t have any ulterior motive or desires from you, no wants that you can fulfill, no way in which you can repay Him! So since He does not have any ulterior reason or expectations from you, He can be as harsh and heartless in getting you to do what He want from you.
The Guru’s job is to make you reach the ultimate goal or destination of life. His motivation is your progress and nothing to do about himself. He drives a hard bargain so that you can be the best. He doesn’t want you to be mediocre or casual in life.
Gurus love is unconditional, unlike a parents who want you to study so that you can have a great job, earn good money, start a family, make a name for yourself and family, be their support in retired life, etc. and they are conditioned by society and life. The Preceptor has no such motivation or beliefs. So he couldn’t care less for the disciple. He has only one goal- to see you on top in spiritual. To become Him alone.
So if your Guru treats you with disdain or insults you, take it, since it is for your own spiritual growth and emancipation. He is making you into the best tool for serving The Lords purpose.
So coming back to the subject of pain and hurt when people talk bad about you or insult you, they are selfish about themselves. They are doing it for some hidden reason and purpose. But when your Guru is doing it, know that it is for making you the best that there is. So never equate Him to all your other bruisers or maulers in life.
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