Sometimes the most innocuous statement can create a very embarrassing scene. Take the case of someone wearing the friendship band was asked, “why are you wearing the rubber?”or when someone backs the car properly and you say, “he’s great at putting it in.” Now you are not meaning anything intentionally but the smile comes up on the persons face and you just then realize you have made a faux pas!
I always thought there was a comic book villain called The Shocker but someone actually got red in face and I looked it up in google and Wikipedia and I got a shock of my life. “The Shocker” term is having extreme sexual overtones and I couldn’t hide my embarrassment at all.
I believe we all create such errors in our lives most of the time but hardly notice it. Those who do, seem to see that innocuous word or words with twisted meanings. Maybe it’s their twisted minds which are contorted or distorted. Just as Gulshan Grower says in one of the movies,”dirty mind”. Now you just cool down and stop feeling sorry for what you meant and what meaning was taken by them. It means that you have to just mind what you say or just shut up.
Once Buddha was going for His usual rounds with a young monk. A person stopped Him in the middle of the village square and started to abuse Him and Buddha just stood there looking at him. He did not utter a single word but looked at that man calmly. After that man had exhausted his tirade, Buddha asked his leave and just started to walk away as if nothing had happened! The young monk was highly exasperated and frustrated with both their behaviors. He was angry at that man who insulted Buddha and was flabbergasted at Buddha calmly listening to that obnoxious man. He asked Buddha permission to give that man a piece of his mind. Buddha explained to the young monk that since Buddha never heard that man, He was not angry but since the monk heard that mans rant, it hurt him! Buddha taught that if you take it then you need to give it back and if you didn’t, then it never affected you! So stop taking crap or listening to it. Only if you accept it by taking it in then it will affect you!
Your mind is a minefield of useless words. If you pay attention to each and every twisted and vile words, then you will surely get upset or angry. Stop listening to useless stuff. Learn to keep your mind under control and so also your tongue. Conserve your energies for reaching higher states. The more mundane stuff you dwell into, the more crass you will be.
One day a woman came and standing outside my door yelled her head off, alleging that since I had told her fortune of not being able to go abroad, she had broken her leg and had to cancel her holiday abroad. It was because I had predicted her fortune that she was injured. I listened to her rant but kept quiet all the time. Finally she left me alone. My wife asked me since I kept silent after that whether I was feeling bad? I answered that the lady’s mouth was gutter and only gutter water will flow through that, why do I need to drink that? So I kept quiet.
If you see someone weaving in and out of traffic, you don’t need to get angry. Stay out of that idiots way! You be safe! Got that!