To draw attention towards themselves children and the elderly will behave in a typical way. They throw a tantrum or want you to see them as martyrs. Its their individual ego at work. Yet humans will prove it to you that its their goodness alone and not any method of pointing towards your meanness of being a bad provider. Its easy to get conned into their emotional trap. Stop being a martyr and trapping others into your stagecraft. To be the truly good-self you will take care of your own and stop becoming a burden on others. God has given you every means of rising above your pitiable and pathetic state of mind. Rise and do your duty always!
